In my last post I shared about gearing up for the new year and said I would be sharing my goals for the new year this week—and I am. But before I do I’d just like to say that I wrote this post a couple weeks ago when I had time to sit and think through my hopes for the new year and since then I’ve been reminded often that while it’s good to have goals and a plan to stay on track, it’s equally important to remember that no matter how successful or unsuccessful I am in the upcoming year, absolutely nothing I do or don’t do will change my standing in Christ. I’m His. He’s mine. The most important work is already done in Him on my behalf.
So yes, I’ll do my best this year. I’ll wake up early. I’ll work hard. I’ll make progress. I’ll make mistakes. I’ll end 2017 with a messy house—dishes in the sink, bags not yet unpacked after arriving home late last night. I’ll roll out of bed tomorrow—the very first day of a new year with all these hopes and goals bound up in my heart. But I’ll also wake up the same person I am tonight. Those dishes will still be in the sink waiting to be washed. My preschooler will need the same correction and love as he does today. My baby will still need diaper changes and middle of the night feedings.
It will be a shiny, brand new year. And I like that. But I’m reminded all over again tonight to start that shiny new year with realistic expectations. Slapping 2018 on everything doesn’t really change anything unless I do. All the same hard work will still need to be done, all the same battles fought.
I hope the New Year is full of hope and growth for each of you. Thank you for being here and reading along as I tap out my heart and share my story here line by line; your support and encouragement mean so much to me ❤
That was a lot of words—sorry about that 😉 For the sake of holding myself accountable and perhaps inspiring you in your own goals for the New Year, here are my plans for 2018:
I thought through my resolutions in the categories that mostly make up my life—myself, my marriage and children, my faith, and our home.
I will write my heart out in 2018. While I’ve written off and on for years, I want to write on a regular basis going forward. Darren and I worked out a system where I have some quiet time each week to focus on writing and I’m so thankful for his help and encouragement.
I will manage my finances well. I need to focus on a few heart matters concerning money—contentment, self-control, patience. How I spend or even think about spending says a lot about my heart and it’s an area needing improvement for sure.
I won’t yell at my family. I wrote about this more here.
I will use my phone and social media with discipline and intention. Practically speaking:
- I’ll stay off my phone on the Sabbath and in the evening when our family is together.
- I won’t scroll mindlessly, especially if it’s pulling my attention away from things that matter more like my children or a conversation.
- I won’t carry my phone around with me everywhere and I’ll leave a book within arm’s reach to give me another option.
A few other things— I want to dream and live with a little bit of whimsy again; I kinda lost that after having kids. I also want to read a couple books each month and spend more time outside.
I will practice the Sabbath. Sunday, for me, is a really frustrating day. You want to sleep in but kids wake you up. You’re trying to get yourself and everyone else ready for church. After church, it’ a race against over-tired kids to get back home, eat lunch, and get everyone down for naps before a total meltdown (from the kids or me…depends on the Sunday).
After all that, I often find myself using Sunday as a day to play catch-up around the house, trying to get things cleaned up and ready for another week. So instead of heading into a new week rested and refreshed, I’m usually as tired as ever and frustrated about the weekend.
All that to say I’ve really felt God moving me to take the Sabbath seriously and to use the day for rest and worship as He intended.
I will test the power of prayer. I will start keeping a prayer journal for the first time this year and I also bought some really beautiful prayer journals for my kids to keep record of my prayers for them over the years. I want to see what God will do when I ask Him in faith.
I will dig into God’s Word each day and memorize specific passages of Scripture.
Marriage & Children
I will invest in our marriage by creating time together and making the man I’m so lucky to love a top priority in my time and attention.
I will build our home on love and truth. Not on yelling and frustration. Not on ever-changing boundaries and expectations. But by daily, consistently living out love towards two of the most precious people I’ve been given to love and lead well.
I will block out time with my kids. It’s easy when you’re a stay-at-home mom to feel like your kids have more than enough time with you since you’re always there. But I’m learning being physically present and being really zeroed in on my kids are two very different things. To make sure I’m giving my children the individual, focused time they need, I’m blocking out a couple hours each morning to spend with just them doing what they love. I’m also blocking out time to take Roman on a special outing just the two of us each month.
I will start the day before my kids. Because momma needs coffee and five minutes alone before all the things. For me, this means getting up stupid e a r l y and I’m not even a morning person 😥 but I know it needs to happen so it’s gonna.
I will make our home a place we love. This needs its own blog post but I want home to really feel like home.
I will simplify and organize. I have this idea in mind that I always want to be “moveable.” And by that I mean, if we decided to pick and take off one day, I don’t want clutter and material things to slow us down. I want to own what we need and use and pretty much let everything else go. Which means I have some work to do.
I (and by I, I mean Darren) will (finally, officially) finish remodeling this house! Just. All of it. That’s all.
A n y w a y.
I know that’s probably more detail than some of you wanted or needed but it helps me to hash things out here and it also holds me accountable because now you know. So, if ever you catch me on my phone scrolling through Pinterest and yelling at people…well, you probably already knew that was wrong…but ya, nail me for it 😉
I know this word is really overused, but if there’s a single word I think sums up what I hope for 2018, it’s intention. I just want to live with intention, on purpose, thinking through our days and hours and not just showing up and trying to keep my head above water.
That and love. Love is kind of the thing that sums up all the other things and I really want to do a better job loving…loving God, loving people, even loving the life God’s called me to. I want to really live out love in my words and actions and not look back at 2018 wishing I had made more time and loved my people better and more.
So what are you all up to in the new year? Any great expectations? Do share ❤
5 thoughts on “2018, I’m Coming For You”
Beautiful! I know I say that about each of your posts, but, hey, what can I say? I love your words, I love how you use them. Each of your intentions spoke to me and reminded me of years ago me. I started with prayer journals years ago and was faithful in them until a major incident in our home and I could not bring myself to journal, but the Lord has been speaking to me about starting again and as my post yesterday mentioned, I got a new journal, so I know I will begin again. Writing with intention and your words about our Lord, spoke to me profoundly, thank you for that. Even as an old lady, that I am, I forget that I am His and He is mine. He loves me for who I am who He created me to be. I encourage you to write your prayer journals, I go back to mine, reread them and see how prayers were answered from long ago, prayers that I thought would never be answered, were. Thank you for being you! Catching up on your blog today and excited to be doing that.
So enjoying reading each of your comments today ❤ I'm excited about the prayer journals. I hope I will be able to look back and remember all God has done and answered that I might otherwise have forgotten about or failed to pray about all together. I'm excited about the ones for my kids especially…I hope someday to give them to each of them as adults and let them so how they've been prayed over throughout the years and how God has already done so much on their behalf and walked beside them all their lives. I hope it will help instill a heart of faith as they step out on their own as adults and face the trials of life.
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You are already preparing that foundation for them. You are covering them in prayer aside from the journals. They will see and recognize you as a praying Mom, and that is a gift not only to them, but also for your husband and yourself. So proud to know you.
Loved it, Kari. I’m always afraid to make resolutions because I’m likely to let myself down. I would love to SAY I’d like to write more. I have all but given up my blog, and, if I don’t hit it pretty hot and heavy before March, I may as well not renew my . . .whatever it is that is it’s called. It’s pretty expensive for a three-year stint, and, if I’m not using it, why am I paying for it? it turns out that I’m not great at multi-tasking and I’m always tired. To write more would mean that I would spend less time on my jewelry business or take fewer naps, and I’m not sure I want to do either of those.
I never keep all of my resolutions…already I’ve broken a few. But it gives me something to strive for and hopefully leads to growth 🤷
I often feel the same about my blog…do I keep going (and paying) or am I wasting time? For now, I keep on because I enjoy it and it keeps me inspired. Figuring out where our time and talents are best used is certainly a challenge though.